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IMDB rating: 6.50 Plot: Connie Sumner has a loving husband, a beautiful home, and a wonderful son, but she wants more. When she’s approached one day by a handsome stranger while trying to hail a taxi, she becomes obsessed with him and eventually starts an affair. But her selfish actions soon catch up with her… |
Actors: Gere Richard,Chianese Dominic,Lowe Chad,Martinez Olivier,Sullivan Erik Per,Badalucco Jr. Joseph,Anderson Erich,Gupton Damon,Forget Marc,Gleason Larry,Drama,Thriller,
My wife cheated on me… why? is it my fault as my friends claim? Please, I need advices.?
Hello.. so I’m a 25 year old guy, I’ve been married to my wife since 2004. My friends always told me that it was a bad idea to marry that girl because she wasn’t virgin (I was virgin)… according to my friends, she wasn’t virgin and as result she had been unfaithful to me given that any woman is supposed to only have sex with the man she gets married with.. my friends also told me that marring a non virgin girl was a terrible idea because once a cheater always a cheater.. I never paid attention to my friends’ advices and decided to marry her… and so far everything was going great until last week…… last Friday I found out that my wife had been cheating on me for the last 8 months with a guy from her work… as you can imagine, I felt so humiliated, I felt so confused, I didn’t know why she was cheating on me, I asked her why she did it, and she couldn’t give me a reason… I really can’t understand why she cheated on me, I always was a loving, caring and provider husband. I always took her out to diner every weekend, of course, I couldn’t take her out to dinner on weekdays because those days I’m busy working. My friends tell me I shouldn’t blame her for her actions, they tell me I’m the only one who should be blamed for having married a non virgin woman.. do u think my friends are right?
I hope this is a troll.
Virgin does not = unfaithful. Unlink these two concepts in your brain. Now that you’re not longer a virgin, will you automatically cheat on your next girlfriend? No.
Rachel | Feb 05, 2010
Your friends are idiots and not very sensitive to your situation.
Not being a virgin is not the cause of her cheating, that’s silly. Also, you did not make her cheat.
There could be troubles in your marriage that you are responsible for, but still, that is not an excuse to cheat.
She needs to own up to why she’s cheating and be honest if the marriage can be saved, that is if you want it.
mouser | Feb 05, 2010
Your friends dont know what they are talking about.
You know how many NON virgins have gone into marriage and been happily married for many many years. The statistics prove your friends wrong.
Its just u got a person who was a cheater , thats all.
Ever thought about it from this point. If a woman is not a virgin when married. Its fair to say she has played the feild and is settling for the best. Your friends are looking at it in a different persepective thats all.
Mr Warrior | Feb 05, 2010
I disagree. You wife cheated on you because she was unfaithful towards you. Its not your fault, it was hers. And the fact that she didn’t have a reason proves it.
ddrummerd | Feb 05, 2010
your friends sound like arseholes really golly what has being a virgin got to do with marriage, sounds like your friends are too involved, people can get through cheating but its hard can you do it, i would stay away from so called friends and ask your girl to, talk to her and try and work it out ive no right to say she is a cheating cow but shes a cheating cow sorry ive been hurt thats all and i dont like that behaviour men or woman, i do wish you well xx
SIAN P | Feb 05, 2010
Seriously bro, who gets married to a NON virgin girl?????/ were you drunk?
Sudamericano | Feb 05, 2010
How in the world could someone think the way you do? Are you in a weird cult or something? Just because a woman/girl had sexual relations with a man before she ever met you does not make her a cheater. Your friends are obviously lacking in brain cells. Of course having sex while actually being married does constitute cheating and that is what you need to focus on. Have you actually told her (maybe several times during your marriage) that she was a cheater because she wasn’t a virgin before she married you? That would certainly make her want to stray from the marriage bed and disrespect you the way you are disrespecting her. The past is over and has nothing to do with your current life. Find out what is wrong with your marriage and why she felt the need to look elsewhere. If you still have a good foundation then work on your marriage and if you don’t, get out. Neither of you need to play such childish games when marriage is such a serious commitment.
cateyes | Feb 05, 2010
I think your friends were and are right! why did u marry a non virgin girl? why?
Day | Feb 05, 2010
Her being a virgin has nothing to do with it, if she cheated before the wedding. Then it was a given she would cheat after. Next time be more careful of who you hook up with. The fact that you knew she let you down before, should have been a warning.
Memory | Feb 05, 2010
wow no man it is not your fault unless you are extremely christian noone goes by that stupid virgin rule anymore and not being a virgin when she met you doesn’t mean she cheated on you so your friends are f*cking stupid!
jramy.kiki | Feb 05, 2010
My wife was non-virgin when we first met & I trust her to the max-but it’s bad she started cheating on you after yrs of marriage…
strange-artist | Feb 05, 2010
most people aren’t virgins not in today’s world anyway being a virgin when you marry has nothing to do with them being faithful to you in a marriage. Its all about their character. you could think about the why it happened forever, and still not find an answer to your question but its definitely not your fault this happened and it is her fault she is the one who made the choice and didn’t use self control. Every day we are temped by something and most people would know better and walk away.you were a good husband but you can’t control what others do. even a virgin could cheat on you so it has nothing to do with that.
jude | Feb 05, 2010
sorry this is going to be very blunt.
but…
Your friends are idiots. your an idiot for listening to them.
No, a non virgin woman isn’t automatically going to cheat on you.
She probably cheated on your because she wasn’t happy in the marriage. with your sex life or a number of other things that arn’t related to her being a non virgin. its more likely she is slutty.
you are obviously a religious person? and going by your reasoning you will cheat on your next partner because you are no longer a virgin? wtf?
Change who you are going after, its the girl who cheated not you. no you shouldnt feel to blame she should.
honest_aus_girl | Feb 05, 2010
your friends sound like they need to get some facts straight. because someone isn’t a virgin when you marry them doesn’t make them a cheater. so i’m assuming that your friends feel that anyone who isn’t married is supposed to be a virgin. well back in the old days that may have been the case but we are in the 21st century things have changed. it is great that you saved yourself until you got married most people don’t have that conviction. good for you! and the only person to blame for the cheating is the cheater(your wife). now you 2 need to figure if you can get past all this or not and as far as her not knowing why she did it. not true.
trish | Feb 05, 2010
YOU are NOT responsible for the actions of others.It is NOT your fault that your wife was unfaithful. Some women and men cheat because they feel lonely,unloved or use it as revenge because the other one cheated first. But those are NEVER valid reasons and IMO, there are NO valid reasons to forget the vows you took when you married. Your wife being a non-virgin has NOTHING to do with it. I was a non-virgin and I have NEVER been unfaithful to my husband in the past 23 years that we have been together. Are all of these friends male virgins? If not, do they think they will cheat when they are married? Do your friends think that men are supposed to only have sex with the woman they marry? It almost sounds like the INFAMOUS double standard where some men think they can do no wrong and the woman is always at fault. IMO you need to talk to someone who can give you a clear picture on human behavior and stop listening to people who seem to be trying to lay the blame at your feet.
angiekstone | Feb 05, 2010
